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I imagine there are many, many like us out there. You know, it took me until this year (I am 42) to realize my mother's role in all this. I had always pictured her as being a victim, right along with us kids. My eyes were opened this year and I now know she was an enabler and a co-dependent in this saga. Being programmed from birth to accept this type of treatment, she made it easy for my dad to do this to all of us kids.
Why is it that some people can break away from this type of conditioning and some cannot? What is the deciding factor, I wonder? Why do some perpetuate the cycle and some do not? Very frustrating to see it all and not understand, to be powerless to stop it. That must be how you are feeling now, Lengel?
I imagine there are many, many like us out there. You know, it took me until this year (I am 42) to realize my mother's role in all this. I had always pictured her as being a victim, right along with us kids. My eyes were opened this year and I now know she was an enabler and a co-dependent in this saga. Being programmed from birth to accept this type of treatment, she made it easy for my dad to do this to all of us kids.
Why is it that some people can break away from this type of conditioning and some cannot? What is the deciding factor, I wonder? Why do some perpetuate the cycle and some do not? Very frustrating to see it all and not understand, to be powerless to stop it. That must be how you are feeling now, Lengel?